My name is Yishay Joy and I live in Charlotte, NC. I returned to natural for my oldest daughter Madison. She was two at the time and would ask me, “Mommy why isn’t your hair fluffy like mines? ”
My family and especially my husband supported my decision. He told me every day how beautiful I looked. Now getting locs, I did not have my mother or siblings support.
I really did not care whether I had support or not, I had already been natural for six years before getting locs so any smart remarks about my loc journey did not bother me. Eventually as my locs grew everyone began to love them.
I transitioned for ten months then did the big chop myself. One day I was trying to comb out mostly natural and relaxed hair and just decided today is the day and I cut off all the relaxed hair. It was scary and exciting at the same time. When I walked out of the bathroom my daughter started jumping up and down screaming “mommy’s hair is fluffy like mines!”
After four years of being natural, I started wearing two strand twists a lot. I like the look and the freedom. I watched thousands of YouTube videos on locs and low-key wanted them after having another baby girl and only having time for a puff. I went to get my hair two strand twisted but this time without any hair added. During that time I decided to never take them out and my loc journey began. July 25 will make seven years.
My favorite products are Hot Six Oil, olive oil, Shea butter, Cantu leave-in conditioner and I love how clean pure black soap make my locs feel. Dr. Bronner Lavender Castile Soap is nice also but it makes my scalp dry sometimes. Some of my favorite go to hairstyles are braid-outs, pipe cleaners and twist.
I moisturize my hair with spray water and/or leave-in conditioner then add oil each night. I shampoo with black soap diluted with water every two weeks. I retwist by palm rolling every three to four months. I use homemade flaxseed and coconut oil to retwist. In between retwist after washing, I usually braid, twist or pipe cleaner my locs. These styles keep my roots neat and help hide fuzzy roots.
I do not believe natural hair is a fad, well at least not for me.Yishay Joy
My twin sister inspired me to return to natural and Chescalocs on YouTube inspired me to loc my hair. If I could inspire someone to embrace their natural hair, I would tell them that returning natural is the best thing I ever did for myself. Transitioning is hard but if I had to do it over again I would skip that part and go right to the big chop.
That hard hair you see in the beginning is not your natural texture. It takes months, for me years, to see my pure natural hair.
With getting locs, the hard part was weeding through all the crazy things people say like don’t wash your hair in the beginning or parting is so important.
I chose two strand twist over sisterlocks because I did not want to have to always go to the salon. I learned patience with going natural so getting locs was easy. I got really creative and flat twists was my favorite style in the earlier months. Over time it got easier as more of my locs formed and got longer and longer.