My ‘Crown Oil’ is a hair growth/strengthening moisturizer for any and all hair textures. I use it to nourish my scalp and as a retwist potion for my locs.
My name is CJ Lopez and I was born and raised in Southern California. I was in my junior year of high school when I decided to transition from my chemically altered hair to natural hair. I made that decision with the help of my mom because my hair was ruined and I wanted to do something positive about the situation in order to get my hair in a better place.
It wasn’t until I was a young adult that I decided that it was time to stop hiding my hair from underneath extensions and to let my natural hair breathe and shine. I am very blessed and thankful to say that my family and friends were extremely supportive of my choice to be natural and free.
My mom actually tried to get me to let go of the extensions years after I was natural. She told me how beautiful my hair would be if I just let my hair loose and free but I wasn’t confident enough within myself to believe her. Thankfully a year later my mind changed and I haven’t looked back since.
I made the choice to transition instead of doing the big chop because I felt that cutting a great deal of my hair off was just not for. I’m thankful that I stuck with that decision.
Being that I’m a little under a year of having locs, I really do not use products like I once did when I was a loose natural. If I had to pick a favorite product out of the very few items that I use now I would probably have to say castor oil. There are a few things in my regimen now that I could replace and not think twice about but castor oil has been the best product that I can have for my scalp because it only takes a little to keep my scalp oiled. My hair and scalp love it.
There are two ways that I keep my hair moisturized. The first way that I like to keep my hair moisturized is by using a water and oil mixture that I make myself. I use this mixture as often as I feel my hair needs it. As of right now, since we’re in the middle of the winter, I usually use my moisturizer every two to three days.
The second way I moisturize my hair is by staying hydrated by drinking plenty of water. I’ve learned over the years that no matter how much moisturizer I spray on my hair, if my body is dehydrated then my hair will be to.
As of right now I try to keep my hair regimen as simple as I can have it. On average I’ll cleanse my hair with a lavender castile soap and/or a moisturizing shampoo that I watered down. After the wash I spray a liquid leave in conditioner on my hair and I allow my hair to dry almost completely. Once my hair is ninety-five percent dry I oil my scalp with castor oil and I’m all set for the week. I usually do this once a week but if I feel like my hair can skip the next week’s wash then I’ll just oil my scalp on week number two.
As far as retightening goes, I go somewhere between eight to ten weeks without retightening. I tried to not retighten my locs at all and my locs did not like that so I had to change a few things to make sure that my locs would stay healthy.
When speaking for myself, the freedom of my natural hair for me is not a fad but is a lifestyle. There is so much that I’ve learned about myself during the time that I transitioned from chemically altered hair and when I stopped hiding my hair from underneath extensions. I honestly never felt more beautiful or confident as I feel now with my own natural and healthy hair and there’s no way that I want to go backwards to altering my hair to look like something that it isn’t meant to look like.
I like to say that I inspire myself to continue to stay natural but my biggest inspirations to continue on my journey are my children. As my children grow up I want them to grow up watching their mom love and embrace her true self from the top of her head to the soles of her feet, because in doing so it’ll inspire them to love and accept themselves as they are as well.
If I could inspire someone to embrace their natural hair, I would tell them to take their journey to accepting and embracing their hair one day at a time and to not compare their hair or hair experience(s) with anyone else because our hair and walks of life are all
different. I would also tell them to try their best to not obsess over their hair too much and to allow themselves to enjoy their time with learning their hair.
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You can find me on Instagram at cj_lopez16 and on Youtube.
Usually when we hear the word greenhouse we think of growing plants. Just like plants, our hair requires moisture-water. The idea of doing the greenhouse method can seem out of the box for some if you do not know how it can benefit the hair. To understand how it can work, you must first understand the makeup of the hair.
Our hair strands consist of multiple layers. The outermost layer is called the cuticle. This layer allows water to go into the hair strand. You can determine how well you are able to retain moisture by doing a hair porosity test.
Just like a greenhouse for plants, you will cover your hair strands to trap in your natural body heat. This in return assists with the penetrating of the hair cuticle. Before you cover your hair for the greenhouse effect, it is beneficial to apply an oil blend and or hair butter.
Hi, my name is Lydia Perry and I am from Chattanooga TN. I currently reside in Memphis Tn.
I have been natural since 2010. I decided I wanted my hair to be healthier and embrace my natural roots. Growing up in the 80’s we were taught that relaxed hair was more acceptable. I wanted to show women that kinky hair is beautiful.
I had a few friends who felt it would hurt me in my career. Working in a Corporate environment, your polished appearance is strongly stressed.
Sometimes I hear when are you going perm your hair, I smile and say never!
I did a big chop in 2008 and transitioned into a loose natural in 2010. I wore my hair loose natural for seven years and loc’d my hair in 2017, nearing my two year anniversary March 25, 2019.
I love using natural products on my hair. Currently my favorites are Beekman’s Goat Shampoo Bar for washing my hair. I also love doing hot oil treatments with vitamin e oil. I love Taliah Waajid healing oil. I love Jojoba oil, castor oil, rose water, olive oil, tea tree oil and peppermint oil. Those are my must have staples.
I believe in simplicity. I usually do a hot oil treatment every four months. I moisturize my locs every other day with my rose water and oil spritz. I use the heavier oils during the winter months to help combat dryness. Heavy oils are castor oil and peppermint oils.
I usually shampoo twice a month or as needed if heavy sweating. I spritz and oil my hair every other day. I cover my locs with a satin scarf each night while sleeping. I also use a silk pillow case.
I do not believe natural hair is a fad. Women are falling in love with their natural hair again! Loving the diversity of styles and textures. I believe it is only going to get better!
My daughters are my biggest inspiration! They have always embraced their hair regardless of who was watching. I also have many social media influencers who have inspired me along my journey, Zen Lioness, Desiree Marie, Naturalista4me, Auset, just to name a few! Lol
If I could say something to inspire someone who is feeling discouraged about their journey, I would tell them to love themselves just the way God created you! Beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, and textures of hair. You are uniquely you! Just as the diversity in beauty of flowers, so is your hair. It is a beautiful flower waiting to bloom for the world to see!
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If someone would have told me more than five years ago that I could create my life I would have called bull. It was not until I hit rock bottom that I discovered law of attraction. In 2014 I was a full-time student and worked at a sports bar at night. My husband was a salesman and traveled often for his job. Some days were great, and others were a complete flop. I on the other hand only made enough money to keep gas in our truck and purchase food. That was a lot of pressure on my husband as we have four kiddos. Read more>>
I was relieved of my duties at my job and I could not be more happier. I know you are probably saying who gets happy about losing a job?! This chick!
I have been employed with a company for almost one year and over the past six months I have been very unhappy there. My position required that I create and set the tone for the facility and this required strenuous work physically and mentally.
I am a creative person so doing this was not the problem. The problem was when my creative ideas were considered “too much” by people who feared taking leaps but when I would tone down my creativity I was looked at like I did not do enough. Damned if you do damned if you do not type of atmosphere.
This weighed heavy on me for awhile and this contributed to the imbalance in my life. I dreaded going to work and it took a lot more self care to deal with the stresses. I started diffusing essential oils in my office, smudging and playing binaural beats to keep the good vibes. Due to my love for the people at this location I felt I owed them everything because after all it was my job to keep them happy. Can we really keep everyone happy? No.
I got the job to assist me with my business goals and pay the bills. Quitting seemed impossible as how would I cover the expenses that the job assisted me with? There was no way that I could leave. So many questions went through my head.
I recently had a family emergency that required that I take some time off and I shared this with my Supervisors. When I contacted them back to see if I could use my paid time off hours I then learned that I was terminated.
You would think my first response would be to feel upset but I felt a huge sense of relief in my being. In this moment the universe assured me that I am ok. I lost myself in my job and it imprisoned me as I took on the responsibility of making everyone else’s lives easier (whether they were grateful for me or not) while fighting to stay happy in my own personal life.
I relocated to my location to grow in my career and when I started this job it consumed me. I quit school and started giving my personal works the leftover energy from the day. Losing my job was not hurtful, it freed me. This new journey is one that I am excited about as I have more energy than ever to put towards my passion.
I do believe I would have continued to talk myself into staying but this was the end of the road. New beginnings are now here and I am embracing every moment!
If there is something that I learned from this place of employment it is that I am a special person and a great asset. How great of a job I did still did not disqualify me from being treated as though I was not appreciated. I had to learn how to speak up for myself. I had to stand firm in knowing my worth even when being told that my 100% still was not good enough.
There is something to be learned in everything. I am so appreciative of the lessons that I have learned at this location and I am forever grateful for the release. It is time to soar!
Are you working a job that stresses you?
No one is responsible for your emotional and spiritual healing. Not the person/people who caused the pain, not your friends, and certainly not your spouse,
We have been taught from childhood to apologize. When children play and do something wrong to another child we force them to apologize, even when they don’t mean it. Hug it out they said.
We were taught to seek out apologies from the person who wronged you or the situation couldn’t be resolved.
How has this impacted us? We are emotion filled adults who never learned how to deal with emotions associated with apologies that never came. We are now adults that think every poor situation will end in an apology or some sort of reconciliation. We feel that we require or are entitled to an apology following every dissatisfactory moment.
That is not the case. Actually it’s almost never the case.
As we grew into adulthood we carried the burden of all the apologies we never received—our parents dysfunctional home life, high school bullies, places of employment not appreciating us, first real relationships leading to heartbreaks (romantic and platonic).
We spend our time clinging to the idea of a heartfelt apology for all the wrongs that have been done to us, but the problem is most of them won’t ever come.
This social behavior we learned taught us early that others were responsible for our emotional recovery. That once someone accepts responsibility and apologizes then and only then we can move on, but what wasn’t taught, was if the apology doesn’t come.
Despite what childhood taught us:
An apology can go a long way and can even make you feel better it’s not the job of the person to make you feel better. IT’S YOURS.
It’s easy for your friends and/or romantic partner to want to heal you, and while subtle help is okay at times–it’s not their job or responsibility.
The way you receive emotional stress is subjective to you specifically and while some being able to admit fault is the considerate and responsible thing to do—sometimes people have no idea the damage they’ve caused to your spirit—because again, it’s subjective. Sometimes they will know and simply won’t care. *shrugs*
Waiting around for someone to apologize for hurting you:
stops you from being the most efficient level of self.
Sitting around wallowing in the sadness someone has caused you is not only counterproductive but also hindering to you and your emotional journey. The objective is to receive what people do and say with a grain of salt and move on. It may hurt and it will take some time and that’s okay as long as it doesn’t consume you. Because at the end of the day, the opinions and feelings of everyone around you prove very heavy to bear.
The hurt we feel from people is a direct reflection of them, not you. See, we all have baggage to carry, but the objective isn’t to become strong enough to carry it all on our backs, but strong enough to let it go and heal. Because letting it go, with or without an apology is the real test of strength.
with love and support,
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On my path of walking in my purpose, I have noticed more synchronicities than ever before.
When I first began to notice sychronized numbers like 111, 555, 888, I thought it was just a coincidence. Now, I do not believe in coincidences. As I began to take a step back and look at my challenging situations in life as a whole, I began to see the bigger picture and therefore my perspective changes.
I may feel pain emotionally and sometimes physically while going through, but when I change my perspective it does not hurt as much but more so is a lesson to prepare me for the next level in my life.
During times when I am deep in thought or feeling discouraged and stuck, I notice synchronized numbers. I also notice them when I have overcome a fear. These numbers appear on my clock, on signs, license plates, and in my totals when I am shopping. Have you ever had a total to come up to $4.44 or $5.55? This is not coincidence. I also notice these numbers after I meditate and take the time to communicate with my spirit guides/ angels.
I did not know what these numbers meant at first but when I began to seek understanding, answers were downloaded into my spirit.
At times when you feel alone and do not know which way to go, close your eyes, breathe and ask your angels for guidance. If you are thinking about taking a leap of faith but your gut is in knots from fear, during these times if you really take a good look around, you have messages all around you to guide you and redirect you.
What about that song that comes on the radio and you were just thinking about it? When I am down and/or trying to figure out my next best move, songs will come on the radio that are speaking to me directly.
We are not alone. The Universe supports us. Now more than ever I notice synchronicities. It is a normal part of my life as I am always seeking guidance from my angels/spirit guides.
They can see what I can not as sometimes my vision is blurred due to me being consumed in the energies of certain emotions. It is easy to get consumed in complaining, poverty mindset, worry and fear. When we make decisions stemming from these low vibrational emotions, we are doing ourselves and the world a disservice.
When I find myself in certain states of mind, I take the time to meditate and ask my angels/spirit guides for guidance. It feels amazing to know that even in times when others can not help me because they do not understand me, I am still not on this journey alone. I have help and so do you.
Synchronicities are not coincidences, they are messages. The more you notice them, the more peace you will feel. You are never alone.