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The Harmful Effects of Protective Styling for Natural Hair

Protective hair styling has become a major part of many natural hair journey’s. These styles are supposed to protect your hair and minimize manipulation that can cause hair breakage. There are many hairstyles that can be considered protective to the hair strands and then there are some that are not as protective as you may think.

Many naturals choose to lean towards extensions for protective styling options. It is a process to get extensions installed. I am going to discuss two not so protective styles that includes extensions.



Braids are a popular protective style choice. They are worn by all cultures, sexes and ages. With the warmer weather gracing us with its’ presence, we can expect to see many braid styles as many flock to the beaches, lakes and waterparks to have some fun in the sun.

Braids are beautiful, but they can also cause hair loss if they are done too tightly. One thing I have noticed with natural hair is that many believe they must grip the hair tightly to catch every curl and edge. This results in a painful scalp, itching, reddening, bumping up and hair loss.

Our hair can shed almost 100 strands a day, so you may notice hair within your braids once you take them down. There is no need to worry. If you notice your edges are itchy and bumpy and you have headaches because of your braids, they are too tight and can not be considered a protective style.

Micro braids and twists used to be one of my favorite go to protective styling options. Even though my hair was popping off around the edges, I would still get them for convenience. I ignored what was taking place with the health of my hair for the sake of convenience and beauty. I can not name one person that is OK with losing hair around their edges. If your braids are too tight, they can not be considered a protective style.

Glue in Weaves

Quick weaves and partial leave out weaves using glue can take a toll on your natural hair. Glue is placed on your crown as an adhesive. When I was a natural hair stylist, I had a customer who had recently gotten a quick weave as a protective style by another stylist. Hair glue was throughout her afro and it was very difficult to get it out. There was also breakage from where the glue would not come out easily.

Chemicals in glue can also be irritating to the scalp and cause itchiness and inflammation. This can delay your healthy hair growth cycle.

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These two hair style choices are the most common choices that I have encountered with other naturals. Protective styles should protect and not cause harm to your hair strands and follicles. If you notice irritation or pain from a hair style, I suggest removing it immediately. I know installments can cost a good penny, but the goal is to have a healthy hair growth journey.

I am not against extensions, however, I am not in favor of the harm that it could possibly do to your hair strands and follicles therefore causing you to have to keep covering the damage up with more extensions. If you go to a hair stylist, I always suggest picking one that has the health of your hair at heart first! You want to be able to rock your natural and it be healthy as well as rock your protective styles knowing your hair will still be healthy after taking the extensions out.



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How To Make Flax seed Gel, Chemical Free


Many consume these very beneficial seeds to support the overall health of the body but did you know that you can make your own hair gel from it?

Who in the world would want to make their own hair gel from something that you can eat? You may find yourself getting the DIY bug after reading this. 🙂 .

More and more people are becoming more health conscious and are doing things differently. Many people are changing their diets as dis-ease is at an all time high. Chemicals that we place in and on our bodies, are throwing our body systems out of whack. Not to mention the medications that we are prescribed once we become unbalanced.

With so many people having the “hurry syndrome” DIY’s may be the farthest thing from your mind. I get it, who has time to consider what every ingredient is on a product. With everything being so fast paced today, many want to grab and go. If your favorite YouTube blogger tells you it works, you believe it may work for you and you purchase it believing in that product. I am not completely free of the use of chemicals. I do have a shampoo and conditioner that consists of chemicals that could be harmful, however, I rarely touch it and find other ways to cleanse my hair as much as possible. If I do not feel like whipping up a natural hair cleanser, then I will use it. Balance is very important here. Our bodies are created to fight off everyday toxins you may run into but are we helping ourselves by overloading our systems with toxins?

I am familiar with many gels as I have styled hair since I was a teenager and it wasn’t until about two years ago that I began to look deeper into the ingredients of products. My favorite hair gel was a dark brown gel and so many swear by this gel due to it’s ability to give a great hold. As I think back over the years that I used the gel on myself, I can remember times when it would burn once I applied it. I never understood why that was so then, but I know now. Many gels contain alcohol. Alcohol burns when it is put on damaged scalp. During the time I would use it, it would be after I had relaxed my hair and I would slick my edges (the main part that burns when receiving a relaxer) with this gel. I would also do updos and ponytails by slicking my hair up on the sides. Do you’ll remember that popular hairdo, snatch back ponytail? This style consisted of a bun in the front and a long ponytail positioned on the crown or mid back of the head. I just knew I was going to turn heads with my fresh snatch back hair do.

My scalp would burn like crazy, but I took one for the beauty team anyway. I was willing to let it burn for the sake of the look.

Alcohol is also very drying to the hair. I always discuss products with the ladies and men that come to me to style their hair. Little things like alcohol being an ingredient can make a big difference in the health of your hair.

You can make your own natural gel using flax seeds. Flax seeds has many benefits for internal and external use. Many use flax seeds in their salads. I love to add it to my smoothies for digestive health.

Flax seeds are one of the riches sources of omega 3 fatty acids and fiber. The omega 3 supports healthy hair growth by strengthening the hair, can prevent alopecia, reduces dandruff and aids in the prevention of baldness for men and women.

If you do not want to use them on your hair you can just eat them!

How to Make Flax seed Gel

You will need,

  1. A small saucepan/pot
  2. 2 cups of water
  3. ½ cup flaxseeds
  4. Stocking or mesh strainer (anything to strain the finished product)
  5. Essential oil (optional)


  • Place water and flaxseeds in a pot over medium heat
  • Bring to a boil (stir occasionally to prevent sticking of the seeds to the pot)
  • Continue stirring until it reaches an egg yolk consistency (white and frothy)
  • Turn off heat
  • Strain into a cup, bowl or container of your choice using stocking or strainer object
  • Add 3 drops of essential oil of your choosing

Tip- Get creative and add more to your gel to fit your needs. You can alternate essential oils and even add aloe vera. 

Natural flax seed gel does not have a long shelf life as it does not contain chemicals/fillers to prolong the shelf life. The average length of time that I have been able to keep this gel is 2 weeks by keeping it in the refrigerator. If there is a sour smell to your flax seed gel, this is a sign to throw it away. Do not use if it stinks or you will be stinky. Hehehe….. No, I don’t know if you will be stinky, but I have smelled old flax seed gel before and it is not nice.

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It feels good to know that you are making something natural and healthy for your hair. You know exactly what you have put in it so there are no guessing games as to how this gel can be harmful to your health. Flax seed gel does not dry out your hair. I look at it like hair food.

I love flaxseed and keep some in my pantry. I use it for hair, skin and I consume it often.

Give it a try!

5 Reasons Why You Should Not Do Length Checks on Your Natural Hair




Are you newly natural and binge-watching YouTube slideshow videos of 3-month, 6 months and 1-year length checks? I have been there. I found myself getting so caught up in achieving growth (based off where my favorite youtuber’s hair was) that I began to get on my own nerves. I was length checking after every protective style- every two weeks. Lol!

When you are wanting your hair to grow so bad, you can get to the point of length checking every opportunity you get. It can become discouraging. This takes me to #2.




Why isn’t my hair growing? Why is hers so long at 6 months and mine isn’t? Something must be wrong with me. I must not be using the right products. Let me go and buy the whole line of (fill in the blank). I am just going to return to the relaxer -as you post this in your state of aggravation in a natural hair group on Facebook. Whew! Posting that you are returning to the relaxer in a natural hair group will get you a lot of comments. Lol! I have seen some ladies attack a Sista like a pack of wolves on that type of post. It went something like, “ok”, “do your thing”, “you must want some attention”, “noooobooodddyyyyy cares”.

As you are being so focused on these length checks, you set expectations that if you do not reach in the timing you expect, you become discouraged.



Why oh why my dear are you doing this to yourself? First it starts with comparing length then it starts with comparing textures and whatever else. I have seen it. I have worked with so many women one on one and they would show me picture after picture of women, their length and texture. They were admiring their hair AND complaining about how terrible theirs is compared to the lady in the picture. As a natural hair blogger and stylist, it is so hard to encourage someone to accept where their hair is at the time and to be patient when they have it already set in their mind that something is wrong or it’s’ just not meant for them to rock their natural crown. We can’t force anyone to love their hair. Rocking their natural hair must ultimately be up to the them.



You read it right. Stress can eventually make its’ way into your life as you worry yourself like crazy over why you are not achieving your desired growth. Stress can cause you to lose your hair. So much for length checks huh? It’s not worth it AT ALL. Not only can you lose your hair stressing, you can put your health at risk. Stress causes so many dis-eases. So here you are stressed, then you end up having stomach issues or aches and pains. Now you must visit a doctor and they prescribe you medications because you got your blood pressure high and high blood pressure pills can cause hair loss. It isn’t worth your health. Stress is a killer. #teamnostresszone. Just breathe………


Your hair is like no other. You are unique so your journey will not be like anyone else’s. As naturals we may experience some of the same problems like dryness and knots but your hair may not react to the same products that are working great for others. You may have more shrinkage than those you are comparing your hair too. When I let go of the attachment of the idea length based on how long I have been natural, my hair just flourished. I look back over my pictures and I am like wow. I don’t take the time to length check. I just be therefore I can love it every step of the way. Letting go of expectations has been one of the best things I could’ve ever done for my natural hair journey. I just take care of my hair and go on about life.

I went from big chop, to thick afro, to tapered cut (with shaved sides) to semi free form locks. My hair is growing like crazy! Others tell me that my hair has grown so much. I only notice my length as I am popping myself on my neck or in the face because I think something is crawling on me. Lol! Seriously, I have done that one too many times as I must get use to the length of my locks.


If length checking is only going to add to your frustration, DON’T DO IT! It isn’t worth it. Simply embrace your length every step of the way. Before you know it, you will have reached your hair goals minus the stress.😃



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Hi Naturalistas! My name is Kenty Lichtenberg and I am the proud hostess of I am based in the beautiful island of St. Maarten, and in addition to being a Plus Size Blogger I am also a Marketer, Brand Strategist and Motivational Speaker that loves to empower women and experiment with hair colors for my hair.

I have been natural for about 4 years. This was not a planned transition. I was a weave addict. It was practical to install weaves due to my traveling schedule and it gave me versatility which is what I love. However I cannot relate to “the big chop” because my process was different. Due to the weaving my perm at some point left my “crown” and without me nor hairstylist realizing it, I was fully NATURAL.

When I returned natural it was actually by accident and my boyfriend convinced me to give it try. He was so used to seeing me in weaves, I don’t think he had much memories of me rocking my natural hair. I decided….why not…I had nothing to lose. 


If I had to give advice to someone who is wanting to return to their natural hair, I would tell them, do not do it to follow a trend, do it because you have done your research and ultimately understand that years of chemically processed hair can lead to a series of health challenges. That was not my motivation behind becoming natural, but once I did some research (I had to because I needed to know how to learn again to deal with my hair) I realized that I did my hair a huge favor by returning to my natural coils. Was it easy? In my case yes…however learning how to manage my hair and  what to do with it to make it look “adult-like” was very challenging. For some reason every time I looked in the mirror I felt as if a 12 year old was looking back..and certainly that is not the look you want to inspire when you are over 30. For me that was the most challenging part.

I would not be totally honest if I do not admit to becoming a product hoarder. What happen is that once I identified that I wanted to continue on the natural journey, I started to attend the “University of You tube” to look for guidance from other natural sisters of course! WRONG move..I know that now LOL. Anyways after realizing that my bathroom had about 7 to 8 different brands of natural hair care products, I pulled the breaks. I then turned to gain information from my natural sisters that were locally available. Determining my type of hair was a mix of emotions because I currently have a mix of 4B and 4C. I also attended a few workshops locally of ladies that go as far as making their own natural products. I experiment a lot with colors and it is important to keep your hair properly moisturized and oiled up! After much trial and errors, I found a few products that work exceptionally for me:

  • Jamaican Mango and Lime Black Castor Oil is a natural, deep penetrating, all purpose healing oil formulated to moisturize and heal dry skin, hair and nails. The blend is infused with organic herbs and nourishing ingredients for the ultimate moisturizing and aromatic experience. This is a powerful all-purpose,soothing oil roasted and grounded from the Jamaican black castor oil bean then boiled to produce 100% pure castor oil. These pure and unrefined oils retain their nutritive properties, making them great for skin softening, moisturizing massage oils or hot oil treatments for dry, damaged hair.
  • Aunt Jackie’s Curls & Coils Flaxseed Recipes Curl Mane-Tenance Defining Curl Whip: Superior curl definition in a lightweight formula! Say goodbye to poofy, fly away hair. Lightweight Argan Oil and just the right amount of Shea Butter help to soften curls, prevent dryness and tame frizz, without weighing hair down. 
  • Shea Moisture: Coconut & Hibiscus Curling Gel Soufflé

Once I have these 3 products in my bathroom I am good. I recently started co washing, but I am still looking for the perfect method of doing that!

One of my favorite styles is a twist out! It is easy…it last me for 3 or more days and I have learned to dress it up and down.

What I strongly recommend is looking for alternatives for the days that your hair wants to be disobedient. On those days I rock a head wrap..again courtesy of on line tutorials. Also play with hair accessories and explore protective hair styles when you feel that you need a break!

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Heyyy, I’m Jen and I’m a wife, mommy to four little people, and a fairly new entrepreneur. I’m originally from Chicago but moved to Atlanta  four years ago. My natural hair journey started June 3, 2009 with a drastic, and random, BIG chop! At the time, there wasn’t a ton of information on caring for my “hair type” or natural products that catered to natural hair in general.


You had your heavy hitters like Carol’s Daughter, Shea Moisture, Miss Jessie’s and a few others, but there weren’t as many as there are today. So naturally, I went back to what I knew. About a year or so after my BC, I decided that I wanted a texturizer to “loosen my curls” and make my hair “more manageable 🙄. I didn’t have any guidance on how to care for my hair. I didn’t even know where to start looking for the information.

I had gotten my hair pressed (hot combed) once before getting the texturizer and it completely damaged my curl pattern, so I figured, why not? HUGE mistake! My curl pattern became more damaged. Yeah, it was easier to take care of, but it was a hot mess that left stringy pieces all over my head. In 2012 I decided to start transitioning back to natural.


I have been natural roughly nine years. I big chopped in 2009, texturized about a year or so later, started transitioning back to natural Sept. 2012, and finally became completely natural again in April of 2014.

I returned natural because I assumed it would be cheaper than going to a salon every two weeks. At first, it was fairly inexpensive. Then I did tons of research and found a more and more products that worked. I eventually became a PJ (product junkie) and had more hair products on my shelves than I knew what to do with. That’s when it became expensive lol. In the end, it was still less expensive than getting a relaxer/texturizer and being in the salon every two weeks  FAITHFULLY. I legit had a standing appointment lol.


My advice to someone who is thinking about returning to their natural is, it’s a looooooong and stressful journey to finding what’s right for you and your hair. First and foremost, do your research! Don’t take what anyone, who has “hair like yours”, says as the end all be all. What works for them, may or may not work for you. Find out your hair’s porosity (the ability to absorb and retain moisture) early on and it will save you TONS of money and time. Porosity is everything and the test is super simple! If you can get a grasp on what your hair likes, without breaking the bank, you’re winning! Get a regimen and STICK TO IT!

Learn more about hair porosity and how to do a porosity test- All About Porosity


Currently I’m in love with Obia Naturals CocoShea Shampoo Bar, ApHogee’s Curlific leave in, Inahsi Naturals Aloe-Hibiscus leave in, TGIN’s Honey Miracle Hair Mask, Obia Naturals Babassu Deep Conditioner, and CaJoSe Natural’s Brahmi-Amla & Hibiscus Hair Butter Soufflé.

My go to hairstyles would have to be twists for twist outs, mini twist, flat twists and puffs. I’ve become somewhat of a “lazy natural” lol, so I don’t do as much experimenting as I used to.

Jen7I am the owner of CaJoSe Natural and we are a naturally based hair and skin care company. We’ve been in existence for a few years and recently launched our website. Currently we offer four different butters in five different scents. One of our butters is a body butter that comes in lightly scented and naturally scented. It helps keep dry, cracked, and patchy skin super moisturized. The other three butters are hair butters that have been formulated based on your hair’s porosity.

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