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5 Reasons Why You Should Not Do Length Checks on Your Natural Hair




Are you newly natural and binge-watching YouTube slideshow videos of 3-month, 6 months and 1-year length checks? I have been there. I found myself getting so caught up in achieving growth (based off where my favorite youtuber’s hair was) that I began to get on my own nerves. I was length checking after every protective style- every two weeks. Lol!

When you are wanting your hair to grow so bad, you can get to the point of length checking every opportunity you get. It can become discouraging. This takes me to #2.




Why isn’t my hair growing? Why is hers so long at 6 months and mine isn’t? Something must be wrong with me. I must not be using the right products. Let me go and buy the whole line of (fill in the blank). I am just going to return to the relaxer -as you post this in your state of aggravation in a natural hair group on Facebook. Whew! Posting that you are returning to the relaxer in a natural hair group will get you a lot of comments. Lol! I have seen some ladies attack a Sista like a pack of wolves on that type of post. It went something like, “ok”, “do your thing”, “you must want some attention”, “noooobooodddyyyyy cares”.

As you are being so focused on these length checks, you set expectations that if you do not reach in the timing you expect, you become discouraged.



Why oh why my dear are you doing this to yourself? First it starts with comparing length then it starts with comparing textures and whatever else. I have seen it. I have worked with so many women one on one and they would show me picture after picture of women, their length and texture. They were admiring their hair AND complaining about how terrible theirs is compared to the lady in the picture. As a natural hair blogger and stylist, it is so hard to encourage someone to accept where their hair is at the time and to be patient when they have it already set in their mind that something is wrong or it’s’ just not meant for them to rock their natural crown. We can’t force anyone to love their hair. Rocking their natural hair must ultimately be up to the them.



You read it right. Stress can eventually make its’ way into your life as you worry yourself like crazy over why you are not achieving your desired growth. Stress can cause you to lose your hair. So much for length checks huh? It’s not worth it AT ALL. Not only can you lose your hair stressing, you can put your health at risk. Stress causes so many dis-eases. So here you are stressed, then you end up having stomach issues or aches and pains. Now you must visit a doctor and they prescribe you medications because you got your blood pressure high and high blood pressure pills can cause hair loss. It isn’t worth your health. Stress is a killer. #teamnostresszone. Just breathe………


Your hair is like no other. You are unique so your journey will not be like anyone else’s. As naturals we may experience some of the same problems like dryness and knots but your hair may not react to the same products that are working great for others. You may have more shrinkage than those you are comparing your hair too. When I let go of the attachment of the idea length based on how long I have been natural, my hair just flourished. I look back over my pictures and I am like wow. I don’t take the time to length check. I just be therefore I can love it every step of the way. Letting go of expectations has been one of the best things I could’ve ever done for my natural hair journey. I just take care of my hair and go on about life.

I went from big chop, to thick afro, to tapered cut (with shaved sides) to semi free form locks. My hair is growing like crazy! Others tell me that my hair has grown so much. I only notice my length as I am popping myself on my neck or in the face because I think something is crawling on me. Lol! Seriously, I have done that one too many times as I must get use to the length of my locks.


If length checking is only going to add to your frustration, DON’T DO IT! It isn’t worth it. Simply embrace your length every step of the way. Before you know it, you will have reached your hair goals minus the stress.😃



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Naturalista Jen


Heyyy, I’m Jen and I’m a wife, mommy to four little people, and a fairly new entrepreneur. I’m originally from Chicago but moved to Atlanta  four years ago. My natural hair journey started June 3, 2009 with a drastic, and random, BIG chop! At the time, there wasn’t a ton of information on caring for my “hair type” or natural products that catered to natural hair in general.


You had your heavy hitters like Carol’s Daughter, Shea Moisture, Miss Jessie’s and a few others, but there weren’t as many as there are today. So naturally, I went back to what I knew. About a year or so after my BC, I decided that I wanted a texturizer to “loosen my curls” and make my hair “more manageable 🙄. I didn’t have any guidance on how to care for my hair. I didn’t even know where to start looking for the information.

I had gotten my hair pressed (hot combed) once before getting the texturizer and it completely damaged my curl pattern, so I figured, why not? HUGE mistake! My curl pattern became more damaged. Yeah, it was easier to take care of, but it was a hot mess that left stringy pieces all over my head. In 2012 I decided to start transitioning back to natural.


I have been natural roughly nine years. I big chopped in 2009, texturized about a year or so later, started transitioning back to natural Sept. 2012, and finally became completely natural again in April of 2014.

I returned natural because I assumed it would be cheaper than going to a salon every two weeks. At first, it was fairly inexpensive. Then I did tons of research and found a more and more products that worked. I eventually became a PJ (product junkie) and had more hair products on my shelves than I knew what to do with. That’s when it became expensive lol. In the end, it was still less expensive than getting a relaxer/texturizer and being in the salon every two weeks  FAITHFULLY. I legit had a standing appointment lol.


My advice to someone who is thinking about returning to their natural is, it’s a looooooong and stressful journey to finding what’s right for you and your hair. First and foremost, do your research! Don’t take what anyone, who has “hair like yours”, says as the end all be all. What works for them, may or may not work for you. Find out your hair’s porosity (the ability to absorb and retain moisture) early on and it will save you TONS of money and time. Porosity is everything and the test is super simple! If you can get a grasp on what your hair likes, without breaking the bank, you’re winning! Get a regimen and STICK TO IT!

Learn more about hair porosity and how to do a porosity test- All About Porosity


Currently I’m in love with Obia Naturals CocoShea Shampoo Bar, ApHogee’s Curlific leave in, Inahsi Naturals Aloe-Hibiscus leave in, TGIN’s Honey Miracle Hair Mask, Obia Naturals Babassu Deep Conditioner, and CaJoSe Natural’s Brahmi-Amla & Hibiscus Hair Butter Soufflé.

My go to hairstyles would have to be twists for twist outs, mini twist, flat twists and puffs. I’ve become somewhat of a “lazy natural” lol, so I don’t do as much experimenting as I used to.

Jen7I am the owner of CaJoSe Natural and we are a naturally based hair and skin care company. We’ve been in existence for a few years and recently launched our website. Currently we offer four different butters in five different scents. One of our butters is a body butter that comes in lightly scented and naturally scented. It helps keep dry, cracked, and patchy skin super moisturized. The other three butters are hair butters that have been formulated based on your hair’s porosity.

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Naturalista Julie | Natural Hair Journey

Hello everyone my name is Julie Carrasquilla and I am a mother and wife raising five  beautiful children. Good health and good energy is very important to me and very important to my family.



Eating right, exercising daily, and opening up our minds with excessive reading and exploring is a plus in our daily lives. So being natural to me, is very important. I’ve been natural with my hair for 2 years and the journey is going great. I am seeking more with this life transformation.

Natural means good health and I’m all for it. My hair was in locs for a year and since I like versatility, I took it out. I now enjoy it even more. I use Shea Moisture products and it works great, not only in my hair but in my children’s hair as well. One of my favorite styles is big hair or crimped hair fro.


Please feel free to follow my journey on my Facebook page @ Julie Carrasquilla. If you have any questions or need resources that can be helpful towards your journey, I will be glad to help you along the way. Thank you!







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